There’s this content creator I follow on TikTok , she’s a woman with an inverted triangle body shape and slightly masculine features. Her page focuses on styling tips for women like her: how to dress confidently, how to embrace your body, and how to find beauty in what makes you different.
And most of the time when I check her comments, there’s always someone saying something mean. People mocking her, body-shaming her, or dropping rude remarks. Regardless of these vile comments though, she keeps going. She keeps posting. She keeps showing up. And she looks so beautiful doing it.
Every time I watch her videos, I don’t just see someone creating fashion content, I see a woman who took what the world might use to mock her, and turned it into a tool of power, her message, her platform, her purpose.
And it made me think about that common phrase — “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”
We’ve all said it before, but not many of us truly live it. Because it’s really not just about managing a small inconvenience or making the best of a bad day. It’s about transformation. It’s about taking the things meant to make you feel small…..your pain, your flaws, your scars, your story, and flipping them into something powerful.
And you know I started reflecting on how sometimes, a lot of us are given lemons that the world might not necessarily find beautiful, in forms we least expect — a physical trait we struggle to love, a painful experience that shaped us, a background that made us feel less than, or a mistake we can’t forget. But what we fail to understand is that each one carries the potential to become something beautiful if we embrace it.
I can imagine that when this woman first realized her body shape was unique, she might have struggled with it. She might have felt sad or insecure. But look at her now — she took it, flipped it, and built something powerful from it. She’s growing, she’s thriving, and she’s inspiring thousands of people like me.
Now, what if she had chosen to dwell in sadness of not having ‘society standard’ shape ? or what if she accepted it was something to be ashamed of? She wouldn’t be out here making waves, inspiring others, or walking boldly in her confidence. She would have dimmed her own light and truly the world would have been a little darker for it.
And the reality is that so many of us are doing exactly that. We’re hiding the parts of ourselves that were meant to set us apart because we’re too focused on trying to fit in to society, trying to please people who will never be satisfied anyway. We’re so focused on how others see us that we forget to see ourselves the way God sees us.
We forget that sometimes, the lemons we’re desperate to throw away might actually be the key ingredient for the lemonade that changes our lives.
In fact, a lot of people spend so much time and money trying to fix, reshape, or erase the very thing that carries their purpose. They miss out on their glory because they’re ashamed of their gift.
This makes me feel so sad because I know for sure that one thing we all struggle with as humans is finding our purpose. We ask, “Why am I here?” “What am I supposed to do?” not knowing that sometimes, purpose is hidden in the very thing we’ve been trying to run away from.
Today, I’m experiencing a shift in perspective….a shift in how I see the “not-so-beautiful” lemons that God has given me. The things that society or people might label as flaws, imperfections, weaknesses or expect me to feel shame for, now look different to me. I’m learning to see them through a new lens….not as limitations, but as opportunities.
And this change didn’t just happen randomly. It came because one woman, this amazing content creator chose to boldly embrace herself. She chose to see herself the way God sees her, not the way the world does. She shut out the noise, silenced the criticism, and turned what others might consider a flaw into her strength, her message, her purpose.
Another beautiful thing is, her boldness shows that every one of us carries the power to make an impact. It doesn’t matter how small, unseen, or “ordinary” we think we are, we all carry something that can change someone else’s life.
She flipped her lemons and turned them into purpose….one of her many purposes, and now, through her content, she’s helping women feel beautiful and confident in their own skin, no matter their body shape. That’s powerful. That’s ministry in its own way.
If you’ve read to this point, I think the next thing to do would be to ask yourself some questions…
What’s that lemon you think God has given you? What’s that thing you’ve been ashamed of or tried to hide because you’re scared of what people might think or say? When will you stop caring about how others see you? When will you stop ignoring the very thing that was meant to set you apart?
Most importantly though, when will you start making lemonades that might possibly just refresh someone else’s drought too?
Happy New Month!
With Love,
Beks 💜
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
Romans 8:28 (NIV)
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